- Find a new co-parenting style which avoids conflict with each other.
- Never involve your children in your disagreements.
- Don’t let your emotions about one another affect the decisions you make regarding the children.
- Treat your children as children, not as adults. Don’t give them information on finances or custody. Don’t depend on them to fill your emotional needs.
- Never say bad things about the other parent in front of your child or to another person who may tell your child.
- Don’t ask you child about the other parent. That is spying and asking your child to violate a trust. Don’t put your child in the middle.
- Never pass messages or things to one another through your child. Talk directly to each other about things related to your child.
- Reassure your child and correct any misconceptions your child has about the divorce.
- Recognize and respect the wide range of emotions your child has regarding the divorce.
- Put in place a consistent set or rules for both households.